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Make Small Talk Sexy
presents'
The Little Black Book of Openers: 176
Effective Openers for Meeting Women
The Largest Collection of Pickup lines and Openers Ever Compiled.
Hey,
Bobby Rio here.
As some of you know… my specialty is helping you get better at making small talk with
women… and being able to keep a conversation going.
But before you ever get to that point… you must be able to start a conversation with a
woman.
In the pickup and seduction community this is referred to opening a girl or a set. For the
rest of the world it is called "breaking the ice" or pickup lines, or just plain old "starting a
conversation."
Whatever you want to call it… there is no denying that the first contact, the first words
that come out of your mouth, are the hardest to get out.
Whether it is the crippling approach anxiety that has taken a hold of you, or your mind
just can't come up with a clever way to instigate conversation, most men freeze and
never get the opportunity to attempt to attract a particular woman.
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Because of this, I thought that I would put together a list of the most tested, proven,
and successful openers ever compiled.
These openers have been created and used by some of the best pickup artists in the
world. These are openers created by guys like Mystery, Gambler, Roosh, Tyler Durden,
Neil Strauss, and a host of other famous, and not so famous, PUAs.
The goal of this eBook is to create a resource that you can pull up quickly to scan over
and grab a few openers to take out to the bars and clubs with you. With this eBook, you
no longer have the "I didn't know what to say" excuse. There is no reason you cannot
open a set every time you go out.
The great thing about the openers given in this book is that not only can they be used to
open a woman… but a lot of the openers here make for great conversation topics when
a conversation starts running dry… or you can't think of anything to say.
The Small Talk Tactics Report:
I've put together some additional gifts for you… which will help you get the most out of
these openers.
It's called "The Small Talk Tactics" report and "How to Keep a Conversation Going"
podcast… and I'll be emailing them both over to you very shortly.
Keep your eyes open for an email from me with the subject line: "Small Talk Tactics
Report"- YOU DO NOT WANT TO MISS THIS!
Like I said earlier, my specialty is helping guys improve their conversation skills with
women.
The "Small Talk Tactics" report and the accompanying audio training which you will be
receiving
free
contains information on:
• What topics women find most interesting to talk about
• How to take a conversation to a sexual level
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• How to never run out of things to say
• How to keep her entertained long enough to build attraction
• When to move it forward
• And MUCH MORE
So keep your eyes open for more great information….
In the meantime, enjoy the collection of openers.
Note: I tried to give all of the original author's proper credit, but in the community it is
almost impossible to determine exactly who came up with a particular routine or
opener. But I did my best. If you are the orgininal author of any of these lines and I
haven't given you proper credit.
Note: This is a comprehensive list of pua openers that you can go out and use
immediately. But we recommend learning a little bit about how to deliver an opener.
For a good introduction to proper use of openers… we created this podcast that you can
download for free:
A Detailed Look at Approaching and Opening Podcast
This is a podcast we did a few years back that was hugely popular among our listeners
back then. After getting a ton of emails, we decided to re-release the podcast, and
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include it along with this ebook as an introduction to the idea of approaching an
opening a woman.
http://www.greatseducer.com/2006/12/03/a-detailed-look-at-approaching-and-
opening/
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Hottest Girl
Walk up to a girl/set and say:
“I lost a bet and I have to come here and ask the hottest girl on a date…who do you girls
think is the hottest girl in this damn place"
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Forgetting Sarah Marshall
(if you sense she is in a fun mood… and she has observed you in a fun mood)
“I find you two both very sexually attractive and would love having intercourse with
either of you. (turn towards one) wanna come home?”
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I Almost wore that
Here it is; the principle is very simple: Girls HATE showing up to a party wearing the
same thing as other girls. So, as she walks by, point to something on her, then make eye
contact and say:
“You know, I almost wore that EXACT SAME THING tonight. That would have been SO
embarrassing.”
If she looks stunned and doesn’t laugh right away, ask her what color it is (Particularly in
a dark club or if you have shades on). I always lean in and say “Is that blue, or is it
green??” Kino escalation by touching whatever it is she’s wearing.
“Oh, it’s green? My dress/teddy/negligee/coon skin cap is blue, so it’s not that bad.”
Which naturally leads into…
“Have you ever been at the same club/party/restaurant/coon skin cap with another girl
in the same dress but different color? Is that less embarrassing?”
If she’s not amused and intrigued by this point, she’s Helen Keller or you’re doing it
wrong.
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Bubbles0069
Go up to your target…
You: “hey I'm finally here! Traffic was horrendous! And I admit, it took me some time to
decide on what shoes/belt to wear.”
Her: Puzzled look on her face
You: “wait…you’re not BUBBLES6969? The pic she sent me looks EXACTLY like you!”
Her: “blah blah” (hopefully a laughter and smile if delivered right)
You: “wow….talk about embarrassing moments, huh?”
Of course you aren’t embarrassed and you can just stack forward from there appearing
unphased by the “embarrassing moment”
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Mischievous Girl
Walk by a hot girl who’s standing/sitting by herself or slightly away from her group of
friends, and deliver this over the shoulder:
You: “So why are you standing/sitting there trying to look mysterious?”
Her: (smiling and/or puzzled) blah blah
You: “Yeah, see…you got that mischievous look on your face like you just did something
bad and got away with it”
She should be smiling and laughing by then if delivered right. Stack forward either with
another opener or a story or if her friend comes into the set, do the Mystery technique
of saying “hello hello”. Ask how the two know each other then do
the best friend's
routine.
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The Test
PUA: Congratulations
HB: What, why when?
PUA: You pass my first test - you look (you dress) interesting which made me come here
and start to talk to you. Now I want to know if you are fun.
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Polar Bear
Me: “great big polar bear”
HB: “What?”
Me: “That's a great ice breaker don't you think?”
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Jen or Angelina
ME: “Hey I need your opinion about something, If you were Brad Pitt, who would you
choose? Angelina or Jennifer?”
Them: (whatever… although it’s usually Angelina)
ME: “How funny, my friend said Jennifer, he said she’s “safe” but who picks safe over
sexy right?”
This works great if there are two+ girls in the set. When one of them becomes an
obstacle, you can tease her about being the “safe” one.
Me: “Oh I get it! You’re the “safe” one! I’m going to call you Jennifer from now on
(laugh)”
“Hey Jennifer, I’m going to hang out with Angelina for a bit, she’s the fun one.”
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The Five Oceans
“Hey guys I know this is going to be the weirdest question you get asked all night, but I
need some help. On the drive over here on the radio, they were doing that are you
smarter than a 5th grader thing and asked a question, not ONE person could answer it
correctly, and I didn’t hear the final answer, and it’s driving me crazy not knowing, like
when you hear a song and can’t remember who sings it, but anyways, what are the
names of the five oceans?”
…..pause
“I know I know, it’s stupid, but I could only think of four.”
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The Jealous Cat
"My friend has been going out with a girl for about three months and they get along
really well, they love each other heaps, but her cat hates him. Like whenever he tries to
pet it, it will just look at him like he's an idiot and walk off and one time he left his shoes
by the door and it pissed on them. What do you think he should do? We've thought of
four things:
Just be nice to it even though it's going to hate him.
1. Ignore it.
2. Say to his girlfriend: It's me or the cat.
3. When she's not looking 'accidentally' (two fingers motion) run it over with his car ..."
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Magazine (True Wolf)
Grab a magazine, picture, newspaper, item, anything! Then just examine it, and turn to
her and ask, "What do you think of how X looks?" or "Can you believe X!?" or "What is
your opinion about X?"
This is a great, simple, mindless way to open, and then keep things moving.
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My Sister
"I had to come over here and ask something quickly. Girls seem to know more about
these things than we do… Okay I’m going get straight to the point… I’m REALLY REALLY
attracted to my sister… How do you think I should go about telling her and my parents
about this?”
Wait for the girl to give you a look of utter shock and disbelief then change topic and try
having a normal conversation afterwards.
If she is calm about the whole situation then smile and say “That was all bullshit but
since you handled that story… You might just be cool enough to handle me” *sly smile*
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Roosh V Gym Opener (Roosh V)
What you have to do is go to the machine she is working out on and ask if you can work
in. Do it early in her set so she doesn’t say, “I just have one left.” After you do a set, say
something. I would go with a light sarcastic joke, like, “I can usually do ten times as
much, but I’m taking it easy today.” Say this with a smirk or smile.
If she smiles or laughs, that’s your green light to continue the conversation. Since you’re
at the gym, I would ask her questions. How about, “I think I saw you doing cardio. I’m
wondering if I should do cardio first or weight lift first.” If it’s going well, hit her with
another joke. Before you part ways, exchange names. A simple “By the way, what’s your
name?” will work. Once you’ve had that first conversation and can talk to her again like
you know her, it’s just a matter of finding out what she’s doing after a workout to get a
smoothie, where at the end you exchange numbers and take her out on a real date with
alcohol.
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Dinosaurs (JayTea, Hawt)
Hey, what's your favorite dinosaur? (High energy, playful attitude, smile.) Her: "T-Rex"
C'mon, that's lame. You only said that because you remember that name. that's what
everyone says when they can't think of a good dinosaur name. It's so common, and to
think, I thought you were unique and different from the other girls. I want a good one,
and a reason why it's your favorite dinosaur.
Back Story: My favorite dinosaur would have to be the triceratops (pick one). When I
was little I used to get gummy snacks packed in my lunch box and the triceratops were
the oranges ones. And well, orange is my favorite color. Eventually though, I graduated
to Ninja Turtle gummy snacks with Michelangelo being the new favorite. But yeah, don't
worry about me being some immature guy obsessed with dinosaurs. Because I mean,
come on, Ninja Turtles are way sweeter. (You can change the color to purple and say
Donatello. Hell, You don't even have to use Ninja Turtles, use Scooby Doo, or Power
Rangers, have fun with it.)
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Vince Kelvin’s Greeter opener (as described by Seraf)
Walking in the store I waited for her to say it……
HB8: “Hello”
Game On
Seraf: Wow…..seriously? That was ALMOST the best greeting I’ve had all day!
HB8: *Suddenly bursts out in a laughter of flattery.*
Seraf: That was such an amazing greeting I’m almost inclined to do it again….
HB8: Gives another flattering laugh, this time more genuine.
Seraf: …..You know what? I will do it again.
HB8: Laughs even more
I go outside and stop in the middle of the walk way and look around as if I’m biding my
time. I deliberate stay in view of her so she could see me. I could hear her laughing even
more.
Most importantly, I can tell her day was being made. This was the most interesting thing
happening to her all day.
I walk back in.
I repeated my first entrance into the store.
Confident… dominant alpha body language…. looking at everything in the store but
her….owning the place before taking 8 steps in……
I waited for her to say it……
HB8: “Hello”
Seraf: Wow! What an amazing greeting!
HB8: Laughs even more.
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Nice ass opener
Hey a girl just commented that I had a nice ass; it’s hard to tell myself. Give me a look at
your ass. (make her turn around, might not be a good idea if you have a hole in your
back) What makes a good ass?
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Pua Training Openers (Richard La Ruina)
1. I know you probably get no attention from guys whatsoever, so I thought I’d come
and make some conversation with you.
2. You look familiar, did we have sex? (more than likely you’ll find it funnier than she
does)
3. Which of you guys gets hit on the most? (for a set of two hot chicks)
4. You have thoughtful eyes. I think you have a lot going on inside here. (touch head)
this is to be used on a girl standing around looking bored.
5. Are you confident enough to accept a sincere compliment? Good, so am I, you go
first.
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Very Direct (Badboy)
“ You are so Damn sexy, (Pause) and I am going to get to know you (Pause) so tell me
something about yourself (smile)
Delivery here is crucial. If you deliver good, in most cases they get shocked…and they
are like “ so what you want to know?”
Me : “ Everything, but lets start with music.. what kind of music you listen”
From here go into Rapport (Wide & Deep), as this opener will provide you with lots of
attraction. Its very easy to transition to any other topic. As frame you created allows it.
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City Move (Octal)
Hey - you guys from here? Cause I'm just visiting the city... thinking of living here, but
you know the thing with big cities like this is they can be very anonymous... difficult to
meet people, and people can be so much more suspicious of strangers in large cities. So
how did you guys find it when you first moved here? Was it difficult to create a social
circle? (Challenges the group to demonstrate they are welcoming and not suspicious of
strangers, also demonstrates you are a social guy.)
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Bank Robbery (Badboy)
“Hey girls, are u good drivers? Me and Friend, are robbing bank across the street, and
guess what (pause). Driver screwed us. All you need to do is picks us up at XX.00am, and
drive to airport. You get 3%.
This always leads into good conversation, with good energy. This is my opener number
1# right now. They always want to negotiate their %. And they will ask for 5%
If you want to create more drama here, start opener with this:
Hey girls, let me ask you something, can you keep a secret?
Girls :yes
You : OK… (opener)
Delivery must be Playful.
Be prepared to get lots of IOIs.
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Oral sex (Badboy)
Hey girls, Let me ask you something (pause) Oral sex on first date (pause) Yes or No?
This is my new one. They get shocked because you are so bold. I usually fallow up with a
story :
See, they did study about this in Cambridge, and they found out that couples that had
oral sex on first date, stayed together very very long time. Some of them even got
married. And I have this date tomorrow, and I would like to have something with her,
but, I really don’t want to get married. Do you believe in this bullshit, or you fallow your
instincts?
Changing topic here is very easy. No need to transition to direct, as you are already
there.
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Chick Flick (MrSensitive)
PUA: Can I ask your opinion?
HB: Sure.
PUA: I've been thinking about seeing x-movie (out in theatres, or new on DVD) but my
friends said I would be gay if I went to see/watched the movie. What do you think...is it
ok for a guy to watch romantic movies?
HB: Of course it is. Why not?
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Best Friend Just Died (Badboy)
Hey girls, let me ask you something, my best friend just dies, and his
girlfriend
started
hitting on me.. how long should I wait before I start dating her?
This one is so much fun.
Usually they say ‘wait 6 months’
Me : really? Because she started hitting on me after funeral, and guess what happened
yesterday, I received FedEx package with her panties… and they were still wet. I mean,
that’s to much for me. Don’t get me wrong, I would do her, but I just cannot imagine my
best friend Mike looking me from above saying… ‘and that was my best friend’ …
Change topic after few minutes, and get to know them.. If they are coming back on
opener, transition to direct
Actually, I didn’t came here to talk about my dead friend, I came because you are so
damn sexy, and I am going to get to know you… so tell me something about yourself
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Bored Girl (A-Train)
C'mon it's not that bad, it's a Friday/Sat night, the music's good, the dance floor's
pumping, why aren't you up there having a good time? (Maybe expand a little to suit the
environment. Then, stop, as if to think about what you've just said.) Don't you hate it
when people do that, you're sitting here minding your own business and someone
comes up forcing you to have a good time. Like, I was at work the other day standing by
the water cooler/coffee machine and this girl came up to me and said "Smile, it might
not happen". I was just thinking, why doesn't she mind her own business, I was minding
my own. (Then stop again thinking about what you've just said.) Well... I've pretty much
just killed my own conversation, so unless you have any questions for me I'll be getting
back to my friends.
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Does Size Matters? (Badboy)
Hey girls, lets me ask you something.. does size really matters?
Girls : yes/no
You :Interesting, because friend of mine has this huge, huge (pause) car, and he gets
none, while my other friend has this tiny, tiniest ( pause) Vespa and he gets all of the
girls… what's up with that?
This opener will always get them think about..hmmm… but that’s why you move to
something else. I found it very effective after 3 minutes, to transition to direct
Actually, I didn’t come here to talk about my stupid friend, I came because you are so
damn sexy, and I am going to get to know you… so tell me something about yourself
When you open with something like this, and conversation either stays too long in that
topic, OR each time you try to change topic, they go back on opener, use this above
transition. Its very Powerful frame destroyer.
Wide & deep Rapport from here (so what kind of music you listen)?
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Make Up (TrueStory, Mettle)
PUA: Hey, can I ask you something? (Ask your opinion)
Girl: Sure???
PUA: Ok, I can't stand here and talk for you forever, so make it quick but, Should a guy
wear makeup?
Girl: BLAH BLAH
PUA: Ok, well I have a friend who wears make up. He is not gay or anything. And every
time we go somewhere, people are laughing at him behind his back. And I really want to
tell him that his makeup is goofy, but he thinks he is expressing himself. How do you
think I should tell him? I really don't want to piss him off. He is very sensitive.
Girl: Blah.
PUA: Yeah, I remember this one time, we were invited to a classy party...and my friend
Finish the story. Just make sure it's funny.
Neg: (Look in her eyes.) You know he does the same thing to his eyes that you do to
yours.... it looks very funny.
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Conversation Starter (Christian Hudson)
Depending on how high-status she sees herself and the rest of the environment, you
may need to use this sort of bait. I had a girl walk up to me one night at a club called Le
Souk, looking for an exit (it is a labyrinthine place). Her eyes started to wander as I was
talking (loudly) so I had to bait her with the following:
Her: Hey, where’s the front door in here, I’m lost…
Me: It’s right up in that direction, towards the (now her eyes are wandering behind me
in the opposite direction I’m pointing)… hey look, just because you’re beautiful doesn’t
mean you can get away with a shitty pickup line.
Her: But I wasn’t trying to…
Me: (interrupting her) Oh my God you don’t have me fooled for a second. Here, I’m
going to give you a good line to use then we’ll find a less assuming guy for you to
practice and get good with before coming back to me.
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Transforming the Used Openers
For instance the question “Do you floss before or after brushing” became my opener
“That piece of meat in a wonton soup… what the hell is it?”
The opener “Is kissing cheating?’ became “Would you let your fiancé go to Rio de
Janeiro on his honeymoon?’
“You have a real confident way about you” became “You have a friendly air about you,
you must not be from New Jersey.
The jealous girl friend opener became “Would you be mad if your boyfriend slept with
Jennifer Anniston?”
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Fashion Openers (Cbristian Hudson)
“I love your style. You’ve got a great look - you must be very creative.”
“I have to say - the way you’ve put your outfit together is so creative. I love your sense
of style.”
“Your style really stands out amongst everyone here, and I had to get to know the
person behind such a great outfit.”
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Paris Hilton Openers
Paris Hilton is treasure trove of such content for opening questions:
Do you think Paris Hilton should have been in jail longer/shorter?
Do you think Paris Hilton will end up back in jail soon?”
Do you think Paris Hilton used jail as a publicity stunt?”
Have you seen the latest about Paris Hilton not paying her storage bill?
What kind of drama do you think Paris Hilton will get mixed up in next?
Would let your sister hang out with Paris Hilton?
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Blonde Hair (Tyler Durden)
I don't know of an opener that I've seen open more than this.
YOU: Guys.. get this.. I need an opinion.
THEM: What???
YOU: I'm thinking of dying my hair, TOTALLY BLONDE.
THEM: No.. yes... no.. (They debate.)
YOU: How about like this.. streaks.. etc
This transitions easily into "I'm going on TV.. Ricki Lake show.." or many other routines..
just pre-plan it, and it can go ANYWHERE.
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Mixed Set Openers (Juggler)
A mixed set is a set that has male as well as female members.
1. “It’s interesting that when you have a group of four or more people together like this,
the tallest always stands across from the shortest.” - alter as needed.
2. “Who are you people?”
3. “Who is the leader here?” (They all point) Say playfully to leader, “What qualifies you
to be in charge?” “Do you know what alpha means?”
4. “Do you guys want to see a magic trick? Alright, close your eyes.” (Take cute girl by
the hand away from the group while everybody’s eyes are closed. Do not return.)
5. “You see that group over there? They said they are more fun than your group. Please
prove to me they are mistaken.”
6. “Where have I seen you guys before? Were you at so and so’s party? The one where
the stripper gave a lap dance to the clown.”
7. “I bet I can use my Psychic powers to figure out how everybody knows each other.
Mmmmm let’s see. I am getting a vibe. Yes there it is. You are all members of the same
nudist club. I can tell because you are very comfortable with each other but not
comfortable with your clothes. (Whisper to girl) “Which guy is the biggest?” “Really, I
would have never guessed. Of course it is what you do with it that counts. Which would
you prefer? A guy with a big dick or a guy with a medium dick and five years of massage
school?”
8. “You should know you are standing on sacred indian ground. The legend is that the
Nodrogyar tribe used this very spot to sacrifice virgins. Where you are standing
sir(point) is where the tribal women would prepare the honored girl by rubbing her bare
body with scented oils…”
9. Approach one group member. Make friends. get that person to introduce you to
everybody else.
10. “You guys aren’t a bad looking group but you could be better if you applied some
Feng Shui.
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11. “Hi, I’m CPowles10″ (Shake the hands of those closest to you - but not everyone) “So
what are you guys talking about?” Do this right and they will all presume you know
someone else in the group. If you get called on it you just look like a bold confident man.
12. “Okay, who’s been naughty and who’s been nice?”
13. “Count the number of people in the group (say N)
Say out loud:
‘Don't you guys know that ‘N’ is an unlucky number?’
Then add
‘Good thing I’m here otherwise you would all be cursed to damnation’”
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VALENTINES DAY OPENERS (Magnus)
Here is a bunch of field-tested openers you can only use on Valentine's Day!
“HEY… DID YOU GET MY CARD??
You can deliver this with a big jokey smile, or with over-the-top conspiratorial
seriousness. Sidle up to her and whisper with a wink, or shout across the crowded bar to
her.
She’ll normally laugh and say yes - “what about the chocolates?” - she’ll agree - “and
flowers, did you like them?”
Optional: “You liked them? That’s cool, not all girls like Triffids”
If she says no, say “Are you sure? It was in a 4-foot high pink envelope, I left it outside
your front door.”
“HEY… WHERE’S MY CARD??”
“I didn’t get a card from you today yet? and I want chocolates!… and flowers! I like it
when girls buy me flowers. All the other girls here bought me flowers.”
Again, you can deliver this with a big wide smile or pretend to be angry.
I have yet to see a girl come up with a good answer to this. If she comes across as a
bitchy all “why would I get you a card?” then she’s not worth your time anyway. Most
girls just laugh and giggle at which point you push things a bit further as above, and then
change threads. “So anyway, I need a female opinion…” using a canned opener or
something improvised about Valentines Day.
“HEY, THANKS FOR THE CARD!… *WINK*”
There are two usual reactions to this, she may laugh and say “that’s ok”, in which case
you plough on:
Give a little wink… “and those chocolates were great, it’s good you weren’t worried I’d
think you were desperate. It was kind of you to promise to buy dinner in the note you
sent with the flowers, too.”
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If she says “what? I didn’t send you a card!” then you can agree - “ah no… of course you
didn’t… and you didn’t send me those chocolates either… and those flowers probably
just started growing on my doorstep *wink*”. Most girls are in fits of giggles by this
point.
After any of the above, you can ask how many cards she really got. You’d be surprised at
how many hot girls don’t get any, or say they don’t.
I tell them that one year I didn’t send any, but I got three. Then the year before that I
sent SIX but didn’t get any back. Then one year I only got one, so I went up to all the
girls I knew saying “Thanks for the card” until one of them owned up. Of course it was
the one girl I really wasn’t at all interested in.
Magnus
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Mystery’s gym opener (Mystery)
“What you think about when you're working out?”
“I’ve been watching you and you seem to really be thinking about things.”
Do NOT ask for the #. Find out what her workout routine is and see if you’d like to share
your workout time together. Then you can say, …
“I’ve been thinking about something in particular lately whenever I workout. Most
people I bet just think about how they are going to have this great body and all, others
think about how they are going to make their next million. What do YOU think about?”
Then talk about how You've been thinking about the way the brain works. How life is a
lot like working out.
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Man Humor (larrythecaveman)
(1). Girls, check this out... I once knew a guy who could burp for 15 seconds!! Isn't that
AWESOME?!! Girls: (Disapproving laugh.) Why can't you girls be more like men? Huh?
Why can't you do cool things like US? Hey you, the blonde -I bet you can't even squish
an empty beer can on your forehead!
(2). I was playing X computer game the other day. I was shooting people with a
crossbow. One of the bad guys was very close to a wooden door, so when I shot him,
the bolt pinned him to the door... so he was hanging uprights like that... and wiggling his
feet in agony... and the door was swinging open with him pinned to it... Isn't that
AWESOME?! Girls: "Umm, no?" You guys don't know what's cool.
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Mentos (heilxmq)
Go up to a girl with the BIGGEST CHEESIEST SMILE you can put on your face and just sit
there and look at her smiling until she says, "What?" Then pull out your arm revealing a
pack of MENTOS in your hand. It always kills them if they have seen the commercial and
it usually starts a conversation too. Plus it is fun as HELL to do.
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Mime (Authoritarianist)
You: I need an opinion on something. (Kino on the elbow to get her attention.)
Her: (Leans in closer.)
You: I'm thinking about quitting my job and becoming a mime.
Her: (Smile or Crack up.)
You: When you see me doing my thing, will you put a dollar (say "euro" if you want to
appear well-traveled) in my hat?
Her: I don't know are you any good?
You: I'm the best. I have an edge on all the other mimes out there. (pause + eye contact)
I talk!
Then go into how you're going to spirit her away to some exotic foreign capital where
you will mime while she picks the pockets of onlooking tourists....add that after stowing
the loot...you'll both streak through fancy museums all jacked up on Red Bull and
ecstasy... By this time she should've been laughing her ass off.
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BLIND DATE (unknown)
Walk up to a girl or a group of girls. (no guys in the group preferred you will know what I
mean) Say loud and clear, “hey, I need your opinion on something.” “I am going on a
blind date with some girl and I am very nervous about it. Is there any tips you can give
me so I don’t look like an idiot. I don’t really know how to dress to impress or act the
right way” (Act as AFC as you can to disarm the bitch shield)
NOW some girl would just tell you “be yourself”… you should reply with C&F line or
expression. What I did was I made a very serious face and said “like this?” which cracked
them up. I then put up the serious face again and said, “I need to know”, and then
change to a happy face and said “come on, tell me the secret to girls’ hearts, and how
do I dress to impress. If you were going on a blind date, what would you like the guy to
look like”.
At this point at least one girl would volunteer to give you a few tips, and then more will
follow. You can then ask all the questions you want to those girls until they go dry (EV).
Or you can run some patterns and move in to your routines.
Depends on how well you spin it, you might be able to get one of the girls out shopping
with you or more. The danger of this opener is, they might give you advices to be AFC,
i.e. buy her flowers…blah blah blah. It is your natural ability as an ASFer to filter out the
useful info from the AFC ones.
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Self Empowering Class Opener (credit justincedible!)
opener:
Real quick, you guys think it's a good idea to take self empowering classes?
HB: Y/ no / whatever response
Me: I got a buddy that just ended a X year long relationship. And was thinking about
taking a class. But I'm telling him to just go out meet people and socialize, w/o any
pressure of anything else. To just go out and have a good conversation.
But my roommate SHE thinks that guys meeting girls out in public is hard and next to
impossible. She also thinks that classes for empowerment are ironically lame. Then
again she really had no problems attracting people with her job....
HB: What did she do?
Me: Shes ...get this...brace yourself...an exotic dancer double majoring Business and
Psychology. She dances to put her thru school but I don't know what to make of it. It is
her life, I'm just glad she's still in school.
Bet you're in school aren't you?
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COLOGNE OPENER (MM)
In a mall put on a different cologne on each wrist and ask girls which one smells better
on you. Go back and forth several times between arms and make cute faces when you
do.
Have something queued up and ready to go immediately afterwards.
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Hot Women (only to be said to 9's and 10's)
PUA: Hey do you know where me and my friend can find some really attractive women?
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COMPLIMENT OPENER (Unknown)
Compliment her on something she’s wearing or her hair or just style in general. The
trick is compliment openers are to never compliment her on her physical beauty.
You have an incredibly energy about you You have an artless grace That’s an incredible
whatever-x accessory/garment
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Magic Trick
PUA: I want to show you a cool magic trick
Then go into the middle of the two set. Then plant your arms on their shoulders like
arm rests.
PUA: Thanks my arms were getting tired.
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DATING FOR DUMMIES (Herbal)
Go find the Dating for Dummies book. It’s bright yellow and black. I forget the exact
page (78 maybe?), but find the page that has “NEVER USE THESE LINES” on it, and keep
the book open to that page.
Walk up to a girl BLATANTLY and hold the book up in front of your face so she can easily
read the title. She might start laughing, depending on how you do it.
Then slowly lower the book and read the lines. “So… come here often” in a super player
voice. She will crack up and answer you. Break your “smooth” look on your face and
quickly bring the book back up and read the next line “What’s your sign?”. She will laugh
again and probably answer.
Then I usually say “Wow… this works great. Your turn”. It puts her on the spot. You can
flip to random pages and do tons of role-play… the breaking up stuff is great.
Eventually just stack with a relationship related opener, and you’re in. I’ve done this a
ton of times and it never fails to open.
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Eyes opener
Hey let me look at your eyes, they say that you can tell everything by someone’seyes.
The small lines in someone’s eyes tell you how strong their constitution is. If they are
weak and far apart they tend to get sick often, and if they are tightly packed and strong
they are a leader type of person. Let me look at your eyes, hmmmm.
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DIRECT OPENERS (Unknown)
Hi, I like you. And I’d like to get to know you. Hey, What’s up? Where are you going?
You’re cute, are you friendly/interesting? You guys are so adorable. You have such a
cute group dynamic going on. I want to meet you guys. My name is x-name… How are
you? You look like someone I’d like to meet. etc… (I have a lot of successes with these
on girls that are HB7 and lower or older women)
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Coffee Shop Openers
Ask, "Do you believe in ghosts?"
or
Hi, I've been sitting her for the past ten minutes trying to think of some opening line to
talk to you, but I'm drawing a blank. So I'd just like to say, my name is John and I think
you're very beautiful. What's your name?
or
"Excuse me, do you think smiles are contagious?" and give her a big smile until she
smiles back. "See I knew it they are! What's your name?"
or
Hey does coffee really stain your teeth? My friend drinks this coffee through a straw to
keep his teeth white. What do you think- should we be worried? Cause I love coffee"
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DENTAL FLOSS (Style and Mystery)
Hey guys, I need to get your opinion on something. It’s very important, and we need a
woman’s perspective. It’s a matter of life and death.. My friend and I were having a
debate and your answer could completely change my entire life….
Do you brush before floss or floss before brush? No one knows…
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Mime College (Requiem_Knight)
Hey guys, my friend wants to go to MIME College...how the hell do I convince him not to
go??? I don't have a clue what to say!!! I didn't even know they had colleges for mimes.
Do you get your BA in walking against the wind!!!
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DON’T TOUCH ME (David D.)
When a girl bumps into you in a crowded club tap her on the shoulder and say “don’t
touch me” … have something to immediately follow up with.
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Shoes opener
Hey they say you can tell the exact mood a girl is in by the length of the heel on her
shoe. If it’s really tall, even if she doesn’t realize it, she wants hot sex, and if it’s really
low she’s not feeling very sexual. Hmmmm…. (Continue and 100% correct by the way),
hey look her shoes!
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DRUG DEALER OPENER (Cajun)
Used with a wing at night, with funny, just-got-done-laughing tonality. “Hey, I need your
opinion on something…does my friend here look like a drug dealer?” (chicks usually
either laugh or look quizzically) “Because we were outside and some dude came up to
him and touched him on the shoulder like this… (cheap kino on girl) and asked, ‘Hey
man, you got some E?’” Ideally you will use this with a wing who doesn’t look too
straight-laced.
I’ve done this where my wing will open with this and I’ll pipe in with “Since I’ve changed
my look I get asked, “do I party” like all the time. I think they’re looking for cocaine.
Another thing I’ve noticed is about 10 times a night I’ll get someone coming up to me
and asking “can I bum a cigarette”… I don’t smoke but I’m seriously considering carrying
around a pack… but not like regular cigarettes… like Virginia Slims 120s… then I’ll just
pull one out and hand it to the guy and he’ll be all like “WTF?” etc…”
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Campus Openers
Hey, I need your opinion- I'm going on a blind date with a girl and I'm nervous. Are
there any tips you can give me so I don't look like an idiot?
or
Hey, I'm new here- could you show me where the library is?" Once there, tell her you're
not really new, you just needed an excuse to meet her- and invite her for coffee.
or
Hi, I'm looking for models for a campus magazine… you look like you might have what I
need. Do you have any modeling experience?
or
Hey, I'm cramming for a test- can you quiz me on these questions for a few minutes?
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EIGHTIES MUSIC (Twentysix)
Hey guys, help me out, I have this song stuck in my head ALL day and I can’t remember
who sings it. it goes “you spin me right round baby right round like a record player right
round, round round, etc….” who sings that???
(blah, blah, blah)
I was talking to my mom earlier today and she said its Lionel Richie… but I KNOW that
isn’t right!
Then later in the night you can like reopen with “Dead or Alive…” This works with any
one hit wonder 80s music.
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Mother's Day (Strike)
You: Hey, give me some advice: Tomorrow is mother's day and I need a present. What
do you suggest?
HB: (Wants to answer.)
You interrupt: (C&F) But please, no mama's boy presents.
HB: Blabla...buy her flowers.
You: Hey dork, I said NO MAMA'S BOY PRESENTS, right?
HB: Blabla...I don't buy a present for my mother.
You: Whaaaat? Oh you are a BAAAAAD GIRL!
From here you can either spank her, do a mini cold read or whatever. Easy, simple!
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ELVIS OPENER (Mystery)
Did you know that Elvis dyed his hair black? What was his natural hair color? Dirty
Blond. Did you know that Priscilla Presley also dyed her hair?
I don’t know what her natural hair color was, I’m not Cliff Claven, but can you picture
that these two every couple of weeks would dye their hair black together around a dirty
sink in some sick mass-appealing ceremonial ritual? I bet people never considered that
before … did you?
Alternative: Did you know that all Elvis had to do to get a shag was look directly into the
girl’s eyes and smile?
Then look into the chick’s eyes and smile.
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Motorcycle (Lucky13)
I need a female opinion. My buddy (put hand on wingman's shoulder) wants go get a
bike (motorcycle). Could he get more chicks with a crotch rocket or Harley?
BANG! Each girl has her opinion and at least one will answer directly to the wingman,
while the others start asking what you ride. They all want rides and you can always get a
number close.
I know what you're thinking. "But I don't have a bike!" It's not a problem. When she
asks, "what do you ride?" (And she will) just pull back with a humble, "Oh I'm just
learning. I can't take you out yet." Then switch to, "So girls jump on the back of
strangers' bikes all the time, but getting in a less lethal CAR with a stranger is
'dangerous'. What's up with that?"
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EXPENSIVE CLOTHES (unknown)
“Hey guys, I need a female opinion… we were just Saks today, and there were all these
600$ collared tee-shirts… when chicks see guys wearing 6bill shirts like that, do they
think its classy or try-hard?” (That’s the skeleton obviously use your own speaking
mannerisms)…
Then you can use what info and opinions they give you to bust on them, using all the
usual stuff.
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FAT ELVIS (Wilder)
Hey guys, if you were going to hire an Elvis impersonator for your friend’s birthday
party, would you hire a young Elvis or a Fat Elvis?
blah, blah, blah. (if she says young Elvis bust on her for being shallow)
Get this, my roommate lived in Graceland for a year and he said the craziest thing. He
told me that the fat Elvis impersonators always got the hottest chicks, and the young
Elvis’s were always alone. I couldn’t believe it at first, but I thought about it, and it kinda
makes sense. I guess women just lose all control when the see a fat Elvis impersonator
doing “hunka hunka burnin’ love.”
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New Pet (herzog)
Hey you guys, I need a female opinion...I want to get a pet, but I've got a bunch of
criteria, so listen up. It needs to be clean, I don't want to have to clean up after it every
day, it needs to have a lot of personality so we can become good friends, but here's the
thing...it needs to die within a year, because I don't want to commit to something for 15
years Or: But it has die within a year, because that's when I'm moving to Italy!
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No Job Three Girlfriends (Neo-Rio)
You: Hey guys I'm trying to figure out something here and maybe you can help. See, I
have this friend and he has no job and no apartment. However, he has three girlfriends
and he takes turn staying at each of their houses, and they cook for him and look after
him and they don't ask anything from him. What do you think about that?
Them: "Blah, that's terrible blah." So would you date someone like that? Them: "Blah,
what a jerk blah, no way."
You: So what I can't figure out is this... if it's so terrible, how is he able to do this?
Maybe you ladies know because I'm stumped!
Them: "Blah." (This part gets interesting because they may actually start to ask you stuff
about the three women and the guy, and play little miss detective.
Now, you can describe any of the women and the guy any way you want. Say one of
them is a 40 year old lonely woman, and another is an 23 year old party chick alcoholic.
It doesn't matter. You can neg the women for being Nancy Drew if you like.) Well I think
you might be right, but you know, now that you mention it, I think it's because he isn't
really able to look after himself well, so women feel sorry for him and look after him.
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KHAKI OPENER (Superfly)
Hey, guys, my friends and I were making fun of some frat boys, and got into an
argument…is khaki a color or a fabric?” The correct answer is that khaki is a color, and
most girls know this. You can go into, “See, I was thinking it was a color, but the thing is
that you never see a khaki car or wallpaper color or anything like that!” then fire into
your next routine…
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Bookstore openers
Pull out a random book from the shelf and open it: "Wow… cool… this book is so
awesome… this is bad… this the shit… Is what you're reading as good as this?
or
Read a book nonchalantly next to the girl. Shake your head and say, "I just can't find
what I'm looking for. How is that book of yours- is it any good?"
or
Ask her "Have you ever read a Harry Potter book?" Whatever she answers playfully
express concern, "I don't know… if I read it I think it would convert me to withcraft or
wicca"
or
Excuse me, do you know any good books on relationships? My friend wants to spice up
her sex life… what you would recommend
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KINO OPENERS (TylerDurden)
Pushing girls, grabbing drinks out of their hands, lightly hip checking them, snapping bra
straps, grabbing hats off heads, poke her, tap the opposite shoulder, etc…(these require
no memorization are easy for newbies)
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MYSTERY’S ESP (Mystery)
Walk up to a girl and say, “Do you believe in ESP?” Remember to SMILE or you may
startle her. “Just think of the first # that pops into your head from one to four. Don’t say
it. Just think it … now take that # and imagine that it is drawn on a blackboard in your
head. Have you done that?”
She says OK
“What’s so neat about imagination is … we both have it … On the blackboard, I see the
number … three.”
Whether you get it right or not reply.
“Alright, lets try this one more time. This time think of a different # from one to 10. Got
it? Picture it in white chalk on the blackboard … you are thinking of the number … 7.”
If you got the first wrong and the second right, you look like you finally got it … a 1 in 10
chance. If you get BOTH right (a 90% chance seeing as it is a psychological trick where
most north Americans naturally choose 3 and 7 as their first picks) that’s a 1 in 40
chance … “and of course I don’t stake my reputation on mere chance.”
If you get the first right but the second wrong or both wrong, say… “PROOF! ESP does
NOT exist!” Then start to laugh like this “Mooa ha ha ha ha ha ha! And you believe in
ESP!” a good neg hit to start. If she mentions that most people pick 3 and 7 (most girls
won't know this though) just say, “really? Hmm… didn’t know that … thank you Cliff
Claven.” (From Cheers)
If you take the wording I have and do this EXACTLY as stated, you will be surprised HOW
well you will do. When they ask HOW, tell them … I DON’T KNOW. Tell her you can SEE
the #s on your imaginary blackboard. This is NOT a trick. You hate magicians. If she
wants you to do this again, tell her … “don’t be greedy now.”
Speaking of greedy … if a girl kisses you on the cheek and goes to kiss your other cheek,
tell her, “Only one … don’t be greedy.” This is a good NEG HIT. Mild but a neg hit
nonetheless. If she says, “Yes, but I’m French”, you reply, “Are all French girls as greedy
as you?”
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Concert Openers
In a loud concert, stick up your hand and have her high five you. Say "You're awesome!"
and do this to all the girls immediately around you.
or
To a group- "So which one of you wants to get in bed with one of the band members?"
Find out which band the girls wants to sleep with then tease her about it.
or
If a girl accidentally bumps into you, "Hey that'll be $10 please. You can't just touch this
for free. What's your name?"
or
Walk up to the girl, look her up and down once, narrow your eyes, tilt your head, step
back, step forward again, and finally give her a big "HI"
or
My god! Did you see the two girls fighting outside the concert over the short guy? One
pulling the other's hair, the other drew blood with her nails!
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FEMALE ROOMMATES (Tenmagnet and TylerDurden)
I’ve been offered this *SWEET* place in (x place).. I want to live there, *BUT*….. I have
to live with FOUR girls. Like *FOUR*. I’m going to get 4 times the boyfriend complaints;
I’ll never get in the fucking bathroom… I’m gonna have to start showering at the truck
stop, and you KNOW they’re gonna synchronize. (Smile knowingly) Heck, I’ll probably
start *MY* period. I’m going to have to leave the house for 5 days a month!
Did you know that’s why primitive civilizations developed camping? All the women in
the tribe would synchronize and the guys would look up at the moon and be like “The
antelope are moving now, we must HUNT”.
Also… living with all those girls, I could get RAPED. Did you know that 95% of guys that
get date raped commit suicide in 6 months? Girls are such sexual predators… (sexual
predator routine stuff below).”
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Openers for the park
Hey- I know this may seem unusual- but I saw you walking by and I just had to come up
and tell you- that you walk with- the most incredible energy!
or
Tell a girl walking by, "Hey, I noticed something interesting about you…" Then don't tell
her what it is but read her palm instead.
or
Ask her, "So do you think I look better with my sunglasses on or off" Put them on "On"
and then take them off "Off?"
or
It's a great that this park is here… so easy to just let go, relax and forget about
everything for awhile… what makes you feel that way?"
or
"Hey this might sound like a silly question- but if you could be an animal in the park
what kind of animal would you be? Would you be a dog or a squirrel? Then start
debating what the best animal would be.
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Notice (bobo_bobo)
"Hey I noticed X, Y?" For example, "Hey I noticed you have a Gucci watch, is that the
new style?" "Hey I noticed you're drinking a Purple Hooter, are those any good?"
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GLASSES ON OR OFF (Twentysix)
Approach Girls 26 – Glasses off (take glasses off) 26 – Glasses on (put glasses on) 26 -
What do you guys think looks better? *HBs – (Responses: On!/Off!/What?/Laughing) 26
– Glasses off (take off glasses) 26 – Glasses on (put on glasses) (I did the sequence any
where from 2 to 4 times) HB1 – I like them on! HB2 – I like them off! (If HBs disagree
then they usually started laughing…I guess they think it’s funny that they have different
opinions). 26 – My friends tell me I look like Clark Kent when I have the glasses on! HBs –
(Responses: Yeah you do! / No). 26 – Why do you like it when my glasses are on/off?
HB1 – (When likes glasses on) I think it makes you look sexy/it makes you look clever.
HB2 – (When likes glasses off) I think you look better with them off, but I like them on
too!
You get the idea…it opens the group.
Here’s another way I introduced the opener:
Approach Girls 26 – I need your opinion. Do I look better with my glasses off (take
glasses off) or with my glasses on (put glasses on). (I put like a fun/playful face on).
*Run with the rest of the opener above.
Trouble Shooting If a girl asks you to put them on and off too many times I would do one
of the following: - I’d put them on and off again, but act goofy (make faces…whatever) -
Oh my god. Again? (Playful). Then I’d do it again (don’t know if this is a good idea, what
do you guys think?) - Say to the girl who didn’t ask: Wow. Is she always like this? Takes a
long time to make decisions?
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Plant and Stare (Tyler Durden)
Just walk up to girls and just stop. Like plant yourself in front of them. Give them kind of
a boyish playful smiling face like you're about to do something cocky or thought of
something funny you're about to say, and they start giggling.
The key is to stop abruptly, and make the fun face, so they giggle. Then reach out to
shake hands with them (introduce yourself to the HB8s and lower), and maybe do the
spin move. Or just sit there until they giggle and say, "What?? Whaaaat???
Whaaaaaaaaaaaaat???" Say "I can't tell you, we haven't known each other long
enough". You can do this to girls at tables, and then wait until they start asking you
questions. Then say "I can only stay 30 seconds" and sit down. Then stay as long as you
want. You convey a lot of alpha "I'm not intimidated by you" characteristics by not even
saying anything as your opener. Also, it's very playful if done properly.
You can also just use this as a style to lead into any opener that you want by following
the plant-and-stare with a standard opener. Make it a playful one though.
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I’M LOST (TylerDurden)
I’m lost… I can’t find my friends and I’m scared… Remember when we were kids and you
could just make new friends whenever you wanted… and you said ‘want to be my
friend?’ Do you guys want to by my NEW friend?”
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Gym Openers
"Excuse me, but I was curious- how to you keep in such a great shape? What's your
secret?" They'll be happy to talk about themselves.
or
Position yourself as an expert on a weight machine next to hers. Start grunting like it's
incredibly tough- with a smile. "Boy- I'm a little out of shape! What about you- workout
often?"
or
With a playful smile say – "You know, you kind of look like that lady from Ms Fitness- I
can't remember her name- hey maybe you are her- wow this sooo cool… a real
celebrity.
or
Hey I need a female opinion- do you think guys look better in tight gym clothes that
show off her bodies – or casual, loose clothes?
or
"Excuse me… I feel kind of foolish asking you this- but can you show me how this
machine works?" Then strike up a conversation about the exercise form.
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INTRODUCTION OPENER (ijjjji)
PUA: (grab unsuspecting SHB by the arm and point at a random dude) “OMG, that guy is
PERFECT for you - let me introduce you!!” (start moving towards the guy)
SHB: What?! No.. NONONO.. haha.. Help!
PUA: (to guy) This girl is so shy, but she really wanted to meet you!
SHB: (Giggeling hysterically) Nonono… its not true!(Fleeing)
PUA: Awww come on.. don’t be shy..
Both girls were very hot and totally stuck up before I did this. Both of them came back
and talked to me several times during the evening, to tell me how crazy I was…
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TV Show (26)
This opener is outdated, but adaptable to current TV shows.
You: Hey guys. (Pause here for a quick sec? try not to be in a rush) do you guys watch?
Friends?? (Every chick North America watches this fucking show)
HBs: Yeah.
You: Ok, well you know it's their final season right? (Keep talking here? you don't need
their answer) well did you know Joey is gonna have his own show after this season of
Friends?
HBs: Yeah/No/Really, etc.
You: Yeah. He's gonna have his own show. He's gonna be the main guy. Do you guys
think it will do well?
HBs: Yeah/No/Why are you asking this? (Yes, I had a couple say the last one? and to me?
who cares if they say this? it weeds out those who I don't want to talk with that much
quicker).
You: It's gonna have the same time slot that Friends has now. (Say how you think the
show will do here. I usually say: I like Joey, but I don't think the show will work? blah
blah blah)?
HBs: (Most of them agree).
You: I think it's like with Seinfeld? remember how George Castanza had a show and it
bombed?? blah blah blah.
Several times we got in to talking about how Kramer, Elaine and George all had shows
after Seinfeld and how they all tanked. They'd bring this up or I would. Another idea is to
say the show will work.
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Undies (XMander)
Victoria Secrets, pick up a pair of boyshorts and a thong. Immediately approach.
PUA: Hey I need a female perspective here. I'm helping my friend shop for his girlfriend
for their anniversary, and he's completely helpless. Which would you rather receive, the
boyshorts or the thong. (Holding up each as they are recited.)
HBs: Blah blah. (Doesn't matter which they say.)
PUA: (Whichever one the non-targets say, you agree with them.) See (WINGMAN),
that's what I said. (Confident body language is required here. I mean you are holding
very sexual objects, you have to come off as completely comfortable with it.) OK now
we just need to figure out what size to get. (Look the target up and down like you are
judging her.) Ok she's a bit smaller than you. What size do you where?
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MR. BIG (Dr. Paul)
Hey guys, do you watch the show Sex and the City?? I was just talking to those girls over
there and they told me I remind them of “Mr. Big” is that good or bad?
(ooooohhh we LOVE Mr Big!!)
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Grocery Store Openers
In the aisle tell a fit looking woman, "I'm trying to get on a new low carb diet. Do you
have any recommendations which of these cereals are best?"
or
In check-out tell the woman, "You know, you can often tell how heavy someone will be
by the food in their cart. Have you ever noticed that?"
or
Pick up a sensation tabloid and playfully say "Oh my god- the end of days is upon us?
Did you hear about this? Smile and ask her hat she'll do with her last day on earth.
or
Standing in front of a particular food product, say with your side to her "If you were a
cereal what cereal would you be?" She'll laugh
or
Don't eat that… my friend hated it… If you want one that's really good, try this one. It's
totally delicious.
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NEVER BE COUPLE (ijjjji, TD)
“Aww - you are soo cute.. but you make me SO SAD! (HB:WHY?) (pause with puppy dog
face) Cos we could NEVER EVER be a couple! (HB:WHYYY???) Nooo.. we are too similar..
IMAGINE, we would be SO IN LOVE.. and the next moment, we would be fighting and
screaming and throwing things.. and then we would have HOT MAKE UP SEX all over the
place.. and then fight, makeup sex, fight, make up sex.. after a week we would both be
in psychiatric care due to emotional drainage!”
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Mall Openers
Hey, can you tell me where the JC Penney is at? Yeah, I'm looking for a gift for my little
sister. Actually, have you got any good ideas?
or
In a clothing store: hey I need a female opinion- what do you think would look better on
me, this or this?
or
In a clothing store: Hold up some huge baggy pants or bling- "Wow this would look so
awesome on me- yeah like playa pimp. You can be my biatch.
or
Hi girls, I need an opinion. I was at Saks today, and there were $600 shirts. If guys wear
6bill shirts like that, do you think its classy or try hard.
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PICKING UP CHICKS (unknown)
Just open with “Hi, we’re picking up chicks”… its C&F
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Restaurant Openers
For a group sitting down say, "Hey, I only have a minute but need an opinion" then sit
down straight away- by using a time constraint, they won't object to you sitting down.
or
To across the table: "Hey girls, we need a female opinion- what are the lamest pick-up
lines you've ever heard? Then start using them on the girls.
or
All in a joking tone- "Guys, I need a female opinion… how do I get my girlfriend to lose
some weight? I was thinking I should get her on the subway diet just like Jared. No
really is this place low fat?
or
To across the table: "Hey I've never eaten here before. What do you all recommend?
Then tease her on whatever she suggests.
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Wheelchair (Unknown)
Hey guys, would you date a guy in a wheelchair? Her: "Yes, of course." (Bust on her
response.) You're lying... you're pretending to be NICE girls. If they pause, add "?even if
was a really NICE wheelchair?" What if it was a really old wheel chair with a squeaky
wheel? You know with bits falling off it. If it was rusty would it come between you both?
What if the guy was suddenly cured by Jesus...would you lose interest?
You can keep stacking cocky and funny responses. If the conversation hits a dead end,
throw in-
If it was an electric wheel chair would you steal it while he slept......and take it for a
joyride? Would you let him roll up and take you for a spin? It would be so much
fun....you could go on a mini adventure...
What if he got worse and fell into LIFE SUPPORT...would you stay with him....even if it
was a really NICE life support system..! Y'know state of the art...like it even had
like...video games on it to keep your interest in case he slipped into a coma for ages?
If she interrupts during sarge: (Cold read) You talk a lot! 'Cos that would be really handy
if he was on life support...you could tell him EVERYTHING and he'd never be able to
reply! (Transition to another Opener.) "Who lies more...guys or girls?"
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PIMP NAMES (jlaix)
guys guys… I’m coming up with a pimp name for myself, which is better: “d-licious
dogg”? or “deacon dr. rockafella”?
oh cool… shit, you need one too… I’ll call you “devious honey g sweetness”…
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PRIMP OPENER (Harmless)
First, here is the frame you’re using for this opener:
“You’re CUTE… but I’m going to make you a ROCKSTAR!”
This is, in fact, the exact wording I used to open Schematic’s HB9 on Saturday night. I
opened her and I let him take over and #close her. (He should have gotten more. Bad
schematic. Oh well, I’ll call her later. Maybe)
You don’t even need to say anything to open, so this works in the loudest clubs.
You walk up, of course making sure to keep your BL under control. (Shoulders away,
etc.) You check her out then make a face like you aren’t happy with what you see. Then
you hold your hands out like you’re judging her style. You move in SLOWLY, pick some
article of clothing (hat, shirt, etc. Best if it’s upper body or head) and PRIMP it. Take her
hat and TWIST it ever so slightly. Now, back away, lean back, look her over, and give her
a thumbs up.
“NOW you’re a SUPERSTAR!”
Continue with push/pull if you wish… “But wait…” and twist the hat back the other way.
If she touches her hat, bust her for messing it up.
Tell her she’s allowed to be seen with you now, and promenade her around the club.
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The Rules (David Shade)
In a bookstore reading The Rules. "Excuse me!" Her: "Yes?" You: "Have you heard of this
book? The Rules? It is a book of dating tips for women. Such as: ‘a woman should never
call a man.' Is that effective?" The conversation can moved in other directions
concerning relationships.
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RICH OPENER (Herbal, TD)
Came up with this one the other night at a club. When opening a set, walk up and ask,
“Which one of you is the richest?”. Then go into the whole “Ok, you get to be my sugar
mama, then. But hmm…. we need someone to cook for us, who is the best cook?”
routine.
Pretty fun and opens easily. To give credit where credit is due, it’s just a variation on
“Are you rich?”, which I think TD came up with.
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RICKI LAKE (Mystery Method)
This one is used to wing your buddy, especially if he’s in a two-set and the obstacle
needs to be kept occupied. “Hey, my friend here just got invited to be on the Ricki Lake
show. But the theme of the show is Secret Admirers. They told him he’s got an admirer,
but he won’t find out whom until he’s live on the set. So maybe it’ll be someone cute,
but maybe not; it might even be a guy. What would you do if you were him?”
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Sale of the Century (T)
You can open any set if you SELL it. Really act it out, enthusiasm is contagious. Open sets
with total stupidities like, "Do you like apple juice?" Whether they say yes or no you can
just go into what I call the "Sale of the Century Theory". Continue the conversation past
the question by just chucking in random (even bullshitted) facts. Example: "How can you
not like apple juice, goddam it it can cure arthritis...and your hands look a little stiff at
the moment too, let's go get you some apple juice." If you SELL it, be enthusiastic (but
don't look like a psycho) 90% they will come and get "apple juice" (or whatever) with
you. "Sale of the Century" theory states that as long as you sell the opener and then
follow it with some crazy fact it can both open, DHV, and provide ample reason to venue
change.
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SEATTLE GF (TylerDurden)
“Hey guys, I need an opinion. My friend met this girl in Seattle, and they really hit it off.
They wound up hooking up on the first night, and he even hung out with her in L.A. over
the next week. So he’s up visiting her in Seattle last week, and they’re out on a walk. He
takes a few pictures of them together. Like really cute ones with them together. Some
of them they’re just hanging out, and a few of them they’re like kissing or whatever
while they’re out walking.
Anyway, the next morning he wakes up, and checks his camera. He looks at the pictures,
and he sees that she’s woken up before him and gone into it and deleted the pictures
where they’re kissing, and left the ones where they’re just hanging out. He goes to her
and says ‘Are you psycho? Why are you going into my camera?’ She says its because she
thought she looked bad in the pictures, and didn’t want him to have them. But he can’t
figure out if she’s psycho or if its legit that for girls they just hate having pictures out
there where she doesn’t look good. He just really liked them because he likes her and
doesn’t judge the pics like that.”
The girls will either say:
“It’s totally natural. I hate it when pictures make me look bad, especially with a digital
camera where you can just delete them and take more.” (They also sometimes say “But
he’s only known her a few months. I wouldn’t do that on a guy I just met.”)
-or-
“She has a boyfriend!”
Your immediate reply would be “He doesn’t care about that. He’s busy. He just doesn’t
want her deleting his pics! :)”
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SEXY MONKEY (Tenmagnet)
Do you think Curious George is a sexy monkey? ‘Cuz my little cousin was watching
Curious George on TV yesterday, he’s two and a half and he pointed at the screen and
said “Sexy Monkey”. Like WTF?!? I didn’t teach him that… NO REALLY I DIDN’T
He’s been hanging around with that Michael Jackson guy again.
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Technical Challenge (kmac)
You: (With a little energy) Excuse me, did you watch Nickelodeon when you were
younger ... ever?
HB: (Sometimes with WTF look) Uh ... yeah.
You: There was a show where the people hit a buzzer and they could either answer the
question, or "take the technical challenge." ... Do you know the name of the show?
Anchor: I heard "technical challenge" today, and I couldn't remember the name.
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SIMPSONS OPENER (Gunwitch)
Hey do you ever watch The Simpsons? Why has Marge never left Homer, I mean she’s a
sexy bitch and he’s a deadbeat who fucks up all the time.
At this point you can just go on and talk about The Simpsons for a while.
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SLEEP WITH JESUS (Pnutt)
This may sound like a weird question, but would you sleep with Jesus?
Like ok. It’s the year of 25 and your sitting at a bar in Jerusalem and this dude Jesus
walks over and he sits down next to you. He orders you a water and turns it into wine.
Would you have sex with him?
(blah, blah, blah)
“if there’s one guy to have a one night stand with, its Jesus!”
if its a mixed set, you use it on the guy:
“if there’s one guy to be gay with, its Jesus!”
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SPELLS OPENER (Mystery Method)
“Do you think spells work?” Sometimes this will send the woman off on a long blab, but
if the conversation needs to be kept going, the follow-up routine is:
“The reason I’m asking is because my friend over there met a girl in a club last week. He
wasn’t interested in her sexually, because she wasn’t really his type.” (Here the woman
might say “Sure,” in which case you reply “No, really!” and touch her arm or waist.)
“Anyway, she hung out at his house and after she left, he found a metal ring wrapped
around a scroll and some feathers under his couch. Well, he took it to a magick store
and they said it was an attraction spell. And now, the strange thing is, he can’t stop
thinking of her. Do you think it’s the spell or just psychological?”
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Thug Lovin (Jlaix)
Hey guys. I'm doing a poll. Which is superior... which do the ladies prefer more... THUG
LOVIN'? or... GANGSTA LOVIN'? Well, my girlfriend from work said gangsta because its
more hard-core whereas thug lovin is more like a hobby. But my other girlfriend said
gangsta would be disrespectful, like they'd pistol whip you and run a train on your ass,
whereas thug lovin, the dude is hard, but when it comes to the ladies, he's smooth and
sensitive... blah blah blah...
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Fat (David DeAngelo)
Does this (pen, etc.) make me fat?
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TATOO OPENER (unknown)
Hey guys, would you ever get a Tattoo?
Here’s the deal…my nineteen-year-old sister wants to get her boyfriends name tattooed
on her shoulder.
(no, no don’t let her do it)
See that’s the problem she’s really strong headed and when I tell her not to get the
tattoo it just makes her want to get it even more. How do I deal with that and let her
really know its mistake?
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TEXT MESSAGE BREAK-UP (Unknown)
Is it OK to breakup with someone with a text message? (Then make up a good back-
story for this)
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TWIN BROTHERS (Ross Jefferies)
You’re at a party or a club and you meet twin brothers; they are absoutely identical,
physically.
ONE of them has the best hands of any guy you’ve ever met. The other is an incredible
dancer. Which one do you pick?
Same scenario. Again, the two guys are identical. One makes you laugh more than
anyone you’ve ever met. The other is the most incredible kisser you could ever in a
lifetime encounter. Which one do you pick?
Same scenario: One guy has more money than Bill Gates. The other makes you feel like
you are the most beautiful, desirable woman who ever walked the face of the planet.
Which do you pick?
(It’d probably be best to make up some sort of back-story for this)
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WEBBED FEET (Nilatak)
“Hey guys… would you date a guy with webbed feet??”
“I had a summer job at Y Supermarket and there was this guy I used to work with that
had webbed feet. He would always complain that he couln’t get a girlfriend. He needed
to stuff his shoes with cotton so they would fill up and he would always walk on the tips
of his feet. People used to call him ‘Twinkle Toes’!”
They usually ask if it’s me or my wing and I just bust out with “Nawwww…I’m DINKY
PENIS!”
WHO LIES MORE (Chris Rock version) Hey guys, I need a female opinion… who lies more
Guys or Girls??………. The way I see it girls the tell the small lies like “you’re ass doesn’t
look fat in those pants” but girls… they tell the big ones… like… “Its your baby!”
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Karma (Slimijs)
Hey guys, I need a female opinion. Do you believe in karma? If you don't know, Karma is
a belief that whatever you do comes back to you: If you do something good, something
good will happen to you, and vice versa.
OK, I'm actually with my friends here, but I can stay some time ... some things happened
to one of my friends, and so I'm starting to believe that there really is something similar
to karma. Listen to what happened to him. So one of my friends was throwing a party.
And of course there was alcohol involved. So this other friend, who was a little bit
pissed, arrived in the middle of the party. So in the end of the evening they both got into
a fight, and are sworn enemies now. And some weeks back there's another party
happening. So one of my friends is invited to the party and so is the other friend's sister.
So you can predict what happens and they hook up and are in love. And now I don't
understand. Either that is karma, or do girls just like jerks?
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2 Part kiss opener (Neil Strauss)
So, without further ado (okay, maybe a little more ado), I humbly present for your
consideration…The Two-Part Kiss Opener.
PUA: Hey guys, we’re having a debate and need a quick opinion on something. If a guy is
dating a girl, and she goes out to a bar with her friends one night and makes out with a
guy just for fun, is it cheating?
GROUP: Yeah, it’s cheating.
PUA: Okay, that makes sense. So here’s the real question. And I’ll tell you why I’m asking
in a second: If she goes out and gets drunk and makes out with a GIRL for fun, is it
cheating?
GROUP: (the responses will vary, but if any guys say “no,” you can bust on them for
having a double-standard etc.)
PUA: Okay. Interesting. The reason I’m asking is because my friend over there has been
dating this girl. And she likes to go out and get drunk and make out with girls. Now,
some guys might be into that, but it pisses him off and he thinks it’s cheating. She says it
isn’t. So we were trying to figure out who was right.
GROUP: (discussion ensues, which you will have to soon cut off and move into your next
piece of material because they will go on and on about this and stale the topic and
convo)
Enjoy. It’s a nice change of pace for those who love Jealous Girlfriend but are tired of it.
Report back on your results.
Style
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Do I Look Gay? (AceOfHeartSS)
Preferably used with a wing and with a game-show host/party host attitude. "I need
your honest opinion on something...do I look gay?" Some chicks will bust out laughing
when you ask this. "...Because something really funny just happened, this dude was
hitting on me in another bar!" Better to use this with a wing and change it to "Does MY
FRIEND look gay?" because it eliminates the self-conscious aspect. The person who was
supposedly hit on must play it off as something totally funny and even flattering.
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Embarrassing Dare (DeVill)
Hey, y'all are women. You'll probably have some great answers to this question I have.
Well first of all, have you ever known anyone who lost a bet and had to do a dare?
(Throw in an FTC.) Okay. Well I have this bet going with a friend of mine (use whatever
bet suits you), and the winner gets to choose an embarrassing dare that the the loser
has to do. I've gotten some interesting ideas from a few people and I came up with a
couple of my own. For example, (list 2 or 3 dares). I noticed that the best dares come
from intelligent women 'cause y'all are more in touch with your emotional side. What
do you guys think are some really funny ones?
Come up with a list of dares you can describe to them throughout the conversation. You
can even throw one out all of a sudden later on if you run out of other things to talk
about. If the target comes up with a really embarrassing dare, you can neg her by telling
her friends "Whoa! She's vicious. Y'all better be careful around her."
You can turn this whole thing into a game of truth or dare with them. If you're at a bar,
include some alcohol into the game if you want. This will also lead you into other games
you can play to escalate the comfort and kino. You can also switch threads to tell them
DHV stories about some things you and your friends have done before, either related to
bets or just regular DHV stories you like to use.
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David Bowie Opener (Tyler Durden)
Hey guys, I need a female opinion. Do girls think the rock star David Bowie is hot?
(blah, blah, blah)
Get this… my roommate’s little sister, she’s 7 and half years old, has a HUGE picture of
David Bowie on her wall. I’m not talking an 8×10; I’m talking a 4-foot by 6-foot POSTER!
It’s like the first thing she sees when she wakes up in the morning.
David Bowie is a freaky looking OLD MAN! She’s like 7 and he’s like 70. I’m seriously
worried about my roommate’s little sister…
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The “Gas” Open (Joseph Mathews)
Thundercat is the man with coming up with great ways to approach women. So if you
are asking yourself ,”how can I pick up girls?” Read the opener below and then do
yourself a favor and check out his book “The Art of Approaching” by clicking
here.
I’ve used this one at gas stations with some success. Occasionally, while you’re fueling
up your car, you’ll see a rather attractive woman doing so nearby. If this is the situation,
I’ll see how much she’s spending on gas. If it looks like she’s filling up her tank, I’ll
usually call out:
“Hey, you know, you should never let your gas gauge fall below ¼ of a tank. All sorts of
dirt and grime accumulate at the bottom of your gas tank, and if you go past the ¼
mark, you are putting all that dirt and grime into your engine. It’ll save you lots of
money in the long
run on car repairs. Do you know a lot about cars?”
This is actually good advice when it comes to vehicle maintenance, and
most women don’t know this little trick. If you notice, I take a read on the situation,
offer this advice, and then engage the girl by asking her about her knowledge of cars.
Most of the time, women won’t know a lot about the subject. But this gives you the
opportunity to segue into
something they do know a lot about and BOOM! You’ve got a conversation going. But
also notice that this piece of advice is also something the woman can realistically do, so
it’s not worthless advice. That’s the real key to making Advice Openers work.
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The “G-String” Opener (Badboy)
I got this one from Croatian Pick-Up Artist BadBoy, who teaches men how to pick-up
women in his live infield workshop. It’s a good, funny Opener that deals with the kind of
relationship faux-pas many girls love to talk about. You can find out more about BadBoy
at his website www.playboylifestyle.net.
“Hey guys, you won’t believe what’s going on with a friend of mine and his girlfriend.
They’ve been dating each other for six months now, and my friend really loves her. But
they had this big fight a few weeks ago, and she went to visit her mother to cool down.
And while she was gone, my friend was so depressed, that he ended up hooking up with
some random girl he met in a club. Anyway, a few days later, his girlfriend comes back,
and she finds this girl’s thong panties under the bed, and she KNOWS this thong isn’t
hers. So she confronts my friend on this, and he lies and says that the panties are his!
And that he likes to dress up in women’s underwear. So I don’t know if his girlfriend
knew he was lying and just wanted to punish him, or if she really is into this or not, but
she said she thinks that’s really kinky and wants him to wear women’s underwear
around the house. So he’s been doing this for a few weeks now and is absolutely…
MISERABLE!”
(Next, use this Resolution)
“So I think he should just come clean and let his girlfriend know what happened. What
do you guys think? How important is trust in a relationship? Or do you think some things
should remain hidden, even if it means being miserable?”
This is a pretty funny story, and the resolution is one where you open up further
conversation about relationships, something women love to talk about. Sometimes, the
girls will even think you’re talking about yourself! To which you can reply shyly “Yeah, it
is me. But it’s STRICTLY a comfort thing, okay?”
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Fashion Tip Opener (Joseph Mathews)
Just go up and just tell them how they would look EVEN BETTER to you. “Wear your hair
open”, “open that up one more button”, or just fix their clothes. tell her what would
look amazing on her.
Train your eye to look for imperfections and what to do against them. For the clueless,
get two-dozen model magazines and look through the pictures SEVERAL times so you
get some idea. Try to make up negs for these girls and point out what would look better
on them (the model magazine idea is cro_badboy´s)
This sets an interesting frame. first of all, you are teaching her how to please you, if she
reacts well, praise her for being a good puppy. Second, it is obvious that you are the
prize, that you have standards and that you know what you want.
Women love the idea of seducing you, you just gotta teach them HOW and they will
comply.
This is *not* delivered playful or c&f
or anything, just a genuine comment.
From there, it’s easy to launch right into a routine (for example you can talk about what
and how much clothes say about people and cold-read her right there. whatever you
want.)
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Expensive Clothes (Unknown)
Hey guys, I need a female opinion... we were just at Saks today, and there were all these
$600 collared tee-shirts. When chicks see guys wearing 6-bill shirts like that, do they
think its classy or try-hard? (That's the skeleton, obviously use your own speaking
mannerisms. Then you can use what info and opinions they give you to bust on them,
using all the usual stuff.)
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Cell Phone Approach/Opener (Unknown)
ASF: “You’re on a bus, sitting next to a HB and there’s no good excuse to start talking…
Take your mobile/cellular phone, pretend to call someone and have a fictitious (short)
conversation. Then hang up. Start to comment about the conversation with the HB. The
beauty of the thing is: you get to CHOOSE the subject of the conversation on the
phone… so when you start talking to the HB, you’re at whatever subject you chose.”
ASF: “Err… make sure to disable your phone so that it doesn’t ring when you pretend
you’re using it :)”
ASF: “You look her in the eyes and say to your fictitious friend “Yeah, it’s always the
same story, girls keep ogling at me, yeaaah, there’s one in front of me, and you know
what the worst is? She’s shy. … Yeah she’s shy. She’s been looking at me for 10 min. And
she hasn’t even yet started a conversation! Ok; I mean, at least I appreciate the fact that
she has a LOT of self-control; she has not felt me up so far.” If she doesn’t laugh HERE,
well damn:)”
ASF: “Some phones have a ringer test or a ringer volume control, which you could use to
pretend the phone is ringing. Then you ask “First you gotta give me your ID number. OK.
Let me remind you the rate for this call is 80 cents a minute.” And you look up the
number in a book or whatever, and start your stopwatch. Then you launch into a phone-
sex conversation like as if you’re selling phone sex. The great thing about this method is
you can have a cheat-sheet listing all the patterns right there in front of you.”
If you have anything you can add leave it as a comment. You can never have too much
artillery!
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The “80’s Dog” Opener (Style)
“Hey guys, I need a quick opinion about something. My friend just got two dogs, a Pug
dog, and a Beagle dog. She wants to name them after an 80’s pop duo, but I can’t for
the life of me think of a good one. Do you guys have any ideas?”
The game here is to keep presenting options to the group, and then disqualifying those
options. The real sneaky thing here is that there are no well-known 80’s pop duos, so
this conversation can last a long time, and that allows you to segue into a deeper
conversation.
Here are a few of the options you can talk to them about:
“I was thinking Sonny and Cher would be a good one, because the Pug dog is a male and
the Beagle dog is a female. But they’re 70’s, not 80’s, so that won’t work.”
“Maybe Axel and Slash would be good, but they’re rock n’ roll hairband style, plus one
of the dogs is a female, so that won’t work at all.”
“Milli Vanilli was a thought, but those are both guy names. We need a female name.
Plus, Milli doesn’t fit a Pug or a Beagle. That’s more of a Jack Russel Terrier name.”
And no matter what option your targets present you, find a way to disqualify it. Then
use the times your target’s think about names to engage them in some other respect.
This can be a fun Opener to do and can really open the doors to further conversation if
you play it right.
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Arrest (Vincent Chase)
Excuse me... You're not Susan Jensen, are you? (They usually say no, then offer their
name. If they don't offer their name simply ask, "What's your name?" Try to get the first
and last name.) Oh, in that case. You're under arrest. (Turn her around.) You have the
right to remain silent. (Take her by the forearms.) Anything you say can and will be
fucking hilarious, because I'm not a police officer, but you fell for it hard.
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The “Good-Looking People” Opener (Joseph Mathews)
This Opener works well if you’re not a “conventionally” good looking person and your
target is quite good looking. This is also best to use in low-key settings with solitary
targets (for example, standing in line). Basically, you walk up to your target, and say the
following… (Shake your head in an exasperated way) “Hey, let me tell you something
about good looking
people… we’re not well liked.”
You may have a delayed reaction from this one, but once people get the joke, you’re
value will be raised in their eyes because it’s “smart humor.” And the fact that your
target got the joke will make them feel like they are on your level of
intelligence, which will help validate them and open them up for further conversation.
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Frisbee Opener (Mystery)
Get a really cool Frisbee. Carry it with you in your bag. Convey to women that you are
‘active’. That is an attractive quality. If you are in a park or at the beach you can pull out
the Frisbee and yell to a girl (with a playful smile), “Here, catch. Lets play Frisbee.” This
is a good opener when you come across two or more girls too. If a girl is alone reading
you can throw the Frisbee right by her and say, “umm … could you get that for me?”
Then do it again: “umm … could you get that one more time?” Then do it AGAIN and
say, “you know what? If you were to put that book down it sure would make our little
game of Frisbee more fun.” You will be surprised at how a Frisbee can be a great prop
for initiating chat with a woman in outdoor situations. Imagine a girl is walking along the
street and you want to meet her. You pull out the Frisbee and get her attention. “Here,
catch.” Do that a couple of times and then say as you are throwing, “You know, I’ve
been such a city-boy lately that just playing Frisbee has been such an incredible escape.
Come. We have to be further apart. Catch.” Then immediately go into a routine (such as
the bear routine: talking about the bear you came across while hiking - “see how far
apart we are? That’s how far I was from the bear. Can you imagine? And do you know
what I did? I took this Frisbee and knocked him out with it. (Facetiously) No really,
beaned him right in the head and out cold he went. Oh yeah. Here. Im the bear. Come
on. Bean me. Right here. Try come on, I’m the big scary bear, grrrrrr.”)
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Avoiding Someone (Foucault)
So you know when you're at a party and someone you're avoiding shows up...and you
have to look completely enthralled in conversation to keep them from talking to you?
Her: "Oh totally..." (No one has said no yet.) Yeah, so thanks for helping me out.
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Book Store Opener (Mystery)
Buy a bag of gummy worms and hide one in your hand the next time you target a
woman in a bookstore while she reads a book. Walk up next to her, smile and say, “Can I
see your book for a sec? Look at this, it’s a book worm.” Pretend to pull the gummy
worm from her book and then humorously bite its head off.
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Picture Opener (Mystery)
Walk up to this 10 and say, “Hi. Could you do me a favor?” Wait for her to respond. They
will usually think you are hitting on them at which point you say, “could you take a
picture of my friend and I?” Good subtle neg. Give her a playful additional neg by saying,
“you of course DO know how to use a camera … yes?” MUST transition to a good story
right away like this, “Thanks. Have you noticed … that pictures with people looking at
the camera are not nearly as interesting as action shots? Well, what sort of action shot
should we take?”
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Bi-Girl
You: Hey guys, real quick, I need to ask an opinion. Can a straight guy date a bi girl?
Girls: Blah Blah Blah.
You: Hmm...well it goes a bit deeper, you see my buddy Phil has been dating this girl and
yes it turns out she's bi. It was no big deal until he realized that they share a former ex.
So essentially he's dating his ex-girlfriend's, ex-girlfriend. What do you think about that?
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Mystery Openers
What’s your name? Oh, may I call you sally? you can call me Mr. poo-pee pants.” - great
is the girl is a 10!
“If I follow you home, will you keep me?”
“So how do you like me so far?”
“The voices in my head told me to come talk to you.”
“Hello Suzy, your mommy couldn’t make it this afternoon. she asked me to pick you up
and take you home. my that’s a pretty dress. would you like some candy?”
“You have an interesting figure.” - good if the babe is a 10!
“shh! people can see us!”
“You drank too much last night didn’t you?”
Waiting for the subway - “don’t fall onto the tracks - you’ll make me late for work”
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Pickup Resources
Websites
Great Seducer
: Collection of downloadable podcasts with the world's top pickup artists.
TSB Magazine
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fashion, inner game, and just about anything else that a guy ought to know.
Books
Social Superstar
: A collection of Bobby Rio's most famous articles in paperback form.